“We'll be in touch by Friday!”
A recruiter ghosted me after three rounds of interviews.
What's really going on
- This is common, not personal. Roughly a third of candidates who reach a final round say they've been ghosted, and recruiters often move on to the next candidate without closing the loop.
- Reasons range from the role being frozen or filled internally, a budget change, or an overloaded recruiter who may even have left the company, to a quiet "no" that nobody wants to deliver.
- A recruiter going quiet is a different signal from a hiring manager going quiet. A recruiter juggles many roles and candidates. A hiring manager going silent is a preview of what working for them would be like.
What to say
"Thanks again for today. I really enjoyed the conversation about [specific topic], and it made me even more interested in the role."
Change the words so they sound like you, but keep the tone.
Still in the guide for this situation
- 6 steps to take, in order
- 3 more word-for-word scripts
- 3 mistakes to avoid
- 2 signs it's time to escalate or leave
Plus the 24 other situations and the bonus chapter.